Q: "How do I get to know my Stepchildren? They are so busy with visitation to their Dad and their own activities I feel like a constant stranger in the house."

A: It is certainly difficult when the children aren’t around very much and you don’t have much time with them. If possible, see if you can ask them about their day, or offer to drive them to some of their activities. Perhaps you can help with a school project. Of course, if the children are little, you can help by reading a bedtime story or playing a game. It’s the little efforts that will make the biggest difference. And you have to give it time. Older kids aren’t so sure they want yet another adult “nosing” into their business, so take it slow, but continue to remain receptive and interested in them. Find moments when you can talk to them, even briefly. Over time, they will get that you are interested in them.