Q: "What can I do to help my new wife love my son? I want her to love and care about him like I do. I know she likes him, but there must be something that I can do."

A: Actually, if your wife likes him, then be very glad. She can never feel about your son the way you do. You and your son are linked biologically. He is your flesh and blood. You will feel about your son the way you have never felt about another child. You probably don’t love your nieces and nephews or friend's kids the same way you love your son. This biological link is so strong. When you and your new wife have a child, then she will have the experience of the biological link and you will share that experience together. But right now, let the relationship between your wife and your son develop. If she truly likes and cares about him and spends time with him, that is all that can be expected. Your fantasy of this becoming the family you wanted from your first marriage is an unfair expectation for both of you. This is a different family and your wife and son need to find their way to one another without the expectation that either of them will love one another. Since he’s little, he may “love” her, but he will always have the strongest link to his biological mother. So just stay out of the way, enjoy the fact that they like each other and let it evolve. When the pressure is off of all of you, you can enjoy the relationship that seems to be developing!